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Momentum, Momentum, Momentum!

(That's me on the left on the set of Charmed, 10yrs ago...I had hair.)

(That's me on the left on the set of Charmed, 10yrs ago...I had hair.)

If there is one, huge, GIGANTIC lesson I have learned in this wacky life, it is that once you catch a wave of momentum, DO NOT LET GO. Momentum comes to all of us at all times during our lives.  It comes like a bat out of hell and hits like a frying pan to the face.  Momentum gives you exactly what you need at exactly the right moment.  Do not mistake it for "a lot on your plate" and crush it with negativity.  No, you rejoice and roll around in it like a pig in sh!t.

When I was out in California, I was slammed with life.  It was awesome.  I was working my butt off for an incredibly fun talent manager.  I had all kinds of auditions. I just wrapped up filming an episode of Charmed. I got my SAG card. I was offered a 5min standup slot at the Comedy Store.  Life was good. But then, like a true bonehead, I took a vacation, RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF IT. Why? Because I felt I was too bogged down with all of these amazing opportunities that I deserved a break...from living the dream. Ugh! I TOOK OFF!!! Can you believe it?  

Momentum was annngry! It kicked dust in my eye and left.  Then nothing for a long, long time.  The funny thing is that it has taken me to the age of 34 to understand how important it is not to get frazzled by momentum but rather catch it and ride that rascally bastard all the way into the station. There are so many times in life that momentum catches us off guard that we freeze up and do nothing!  Or we get that push of encouragement that touches our soul that makes us want to climb a mountain and conquer it, but then...We don't! We let thoughts get in the way, fears, society, beliefs, NONSENSE.  When you get the momentum in life, no matter what form, DO NOT JUDGE IT!  

THE KEY:  Build it up every single day.  Do not break it. Even if it's tiny (size, in this case, does not matter). If everything is energy, move it and build it up. Workout, write, call, LOVE, speak, create, learn, listen, ANYTHING.  

You put a lasso around its neck, saddle up, and ride that magical beast as far as it can go.  

Then you can take a vacation.  


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“I am, indeed, a king, because I know how to rule myself.” 

― Pietro Aretino

This one will be short but powerful.  WILLPOWER can conquer every single thing in your life that you want to change.  It is by sheer force of Will that empires have risen from the sands, fears crushed and dreams turned into reality by releasing the bonds of judgment.  We were given Willpower to overcome any force internally or externally. 

Willpower takes courage.  You have to dig deep within yourself to find it. And it must be treated like a muscle.  Build it everyday.  Start small and end BIG! Each day use Will to do something you wouldn’t have done before. It does not matter what it is, it only matters that you do it using Will.  No matter who or what hurt you in life, what beliefs you have about yourself, nothing, NOTHING can beat Willpower. 

It is at the very moment you decide to engage Will from the core of your soul that transformation begins.  There will be no hardships you can’t overcome, nothing to knock you off track.  Your life becomes completely controlled by you.  Simply decide to take that tiny step towards conquering whatever it is you want. And you know what will happen? The Universe will know you are ready to fight! And it will back you up. Not a bad ally to have.

Willpower must be cultivated. Do not judge your progress.  Simply start making progress.  1 sugar in the coffee instead of 2.  Workout 3 times a week instead of 0.  Being more present towards loved ones.  Build. Build. Build.  

Once your Will is fully yours to command, holy smokes, watch out, nothing can hold you back.   

Willpower can overcome anything.   


"On Saturday, I was a surgeon in South Africa, very little known. On Monday, I was world renowned."

Christiaan Barnard

Now there’s a Monday!

There were many, many, many Mondays I awoke feeling the grip of the upcoming week strangling me.  No excitement, just the dread of returning to work and the long eternity until the weekend.  Well ain’t that a pisser!!!  THAT IS NOT HOW TO START OFF THE WEEK!  

The beginning of a new week is just that, a beginning! Oh man, the possibilities are endless.  You can begin eating right, call loved ones, learn how to crochet, save for a vacation, rescue a cat from a tree, take the big scary step you’ve been putting off for months, or just plain say F&%K IT! THIS IS WHEN I BEGIN DOING EXACTLY WHAT I WANT TO DO.  Mondays should never strangle you, they should be looked upon with crazy excitement! It’s such an incredible benchmark to begin anew!  

I don’t care if you’ve started a million different things on a million different Mondays and they’ve never worked out in your mind.  Those Mondays no longer exist and by the way, who said they didn’t work out? How do you know that some energetic force isn’t secretly building upon itself and creating momentum pushing you a little further down the path of completion.  It is not for you to judge.  There are forces at work that are just a shy smarter than you and me so let’s keep following our instinct and begin on MONDAY!!! IT’S A HELL OF A DAY!

3 KEYS: I’ve written about these before but I am going to reiterate them because they are sooooooo important. 

1. WATER!!! Drink a few glasses of water when you first wake up.  Hydrate and let your body seep it in like a dry plant.  That’s what it needs.  It flushes out all the gunk from the night and gets it going with purity! It’s so easy there is no excuse to not drink water. The bod kind of needs it.  Water! Agua! H2O! Eau! Tubig! Nam! Viz! Pani! (That’s Urdu for water just in case you thought it was Igbo, which it most certainly is not.)

2. BREATHE!!!  Breathe! Huge deep meaningful breaths.  Pull that air into your body and envision it refreshing that badass body of yours.  See if you you can breathe air into every section of your body. Imagine washing every cell with new life.  And when you breathe out, let all the stale air and nonsense from life flow out.  It doesn’t belong there.  TO HELL WITH YOU NONSENSE AIR!  Do it 10 times or more. Ohh it’s so good.  

3. NO ELECTRONICS!!!  Your body has just come off a pretty cool ride called sleep.  This is when you want to treat it like a new born baby.  Be gentle, loving, nurturing.  If you begin with emails, Facebook, Instagram, news, ebola, money, ANXIETY, you will have destroyed all that was at work on you during the night.  Give yourself a break and just let it have a few moments to sink in. It’s a wonderful time to imagine and feel the endless possibility that awaits at the beginning of a new week.  Think of things you are grateful for and wake up to those.  Think of loved ones.  Feed your body from the soul. Not from anywhere or anyone else.  

Ok, it’s Monday! Here we go!  Begin the habit of doing those three things and try to not miss a day.  You will soon notice a transformation within you.  It’s pretty amazing.  

I have a case of the Mondays. Yep, a case of exploding infinite possibilities.  



"Never confuse motion with action."

Benjamin Franklin

In keeping with the last post I want to top it off with a quick note about keeping the momentum going.  Ben Franklin up there states it perfectly.  Far too often we go through the motions without doing any true action.  Oh my, oh my, this is a very easy trap to get caught in.  I used to have a list of goals and if I could check them off at the end of the day I considered it accomplished. Not the case.  They should have been checked off only if I poured every ounce of my soul into them.  Then and only then could they be checked off.  Yes, I was technically doing something but it wasn’t to the top of my ability.  The key is to ask yourself if you truly “did it”? 

In law school I had this class called Civil Procedure.  I loathed it like the seventh circle of hell. I would read the chapter take some notes and call it a night without truly getting to the core of the material.  And wouldn’t you know, I got an awful grade in that class.  But I read all the chapters?  I spent countless hours on the horrid subject?  I tore out whatever remaining hair I had left. The thing was that I didn’t really do the work. I went through the motions and the result was poo.  This happens so often when people are growing in relationships, business, LIFE and they don’t get the results they want.  It’s fear that holds them back from truly going in head first in the work. With this wacky life make sure to check in and see if you are going through the motions or truly taking action.

Momentum!!! Once you do take that action, take more, and every single day! This is the other trap people fall into.  They make huge terrifying leaps and then take a breather that’s only supposed to last a day and then turns into a year! This is so crucial.  Everyday a new step has to be taken.  You took the leap, that’s the hard part, now keep going!  The momentum is an energetic force that is routing you on. It starts to solidify and becomes palpable.  Soon you have all the momentum in the world and boom! You’re living the dream. 


1. Do not punk out and only do the basics. Dig deep into the meat.

2. Do not let TIME be a factor of the quality of work you do.  Sometimes you will spend 12hrs on a project and other times 1hr and you know what, the results can be just as awesome.

3. DO NOT JUDGE how big the action is you are taking.  A lot of us never get off the ground because we think we have to take huge leaps and then keep that up forever.  Nonsense.  Take the first scary step and then keep working at it, no matter how small or how much time is invested.  The key is keeping the momentum up and never ever letting it go. 

4. No comparison allowed.  You can’t look at your progress compared to others.  I take my time.  Probably more than I should.  I am now 34 and figuring out all kinds of wacky stuff.  I am just starting to dig in but I’ll tell you this, I am ready.  Now I am ready and I have enough of a base to keep me rooted when seas are a heavin’. Bring it on.  

5. SCREAM!  When you are frustrated and want to give up and have no clue how to move forward and have given everything, SCREAM!  Let whoever is up there hear you.  Let them know you are hear and by damned you are ready to conquer! 




"The bridge from stagnation to empowerment lies in our willingness to see them for who they really are, to take them off their primal pedestal and recognize their human limitations. This is not easy- the hungry child self clings to illusions- but it is oh so necessary. Until we accept the limitations of those who cannot love us, we cannot embrace the willingness of those who can."

- Jeff Brown

I learned a very valuable lesson the other day, a lesson I have been putting off for years, a lesson I’ve been petrified to learn: I must release people from the mythical pedestal I put them on with the hope they change into something different.  It’s tough, especially when it’s someone close to you.  But I’ll tell you this, it was one of the most liberating moments in my life.  But it was also probably one of the most heartbreaking ones too. It was liberating because I no longer wasted energy secretly hoping year after year they would change.  I was tired of feeling disappointment after disappointment.  I was free!  Oh but it was equally heartbreaking for the same reason. They would never become the person I wanted them to be.  The person I knew they could become!  But how silly is that of me!  It’s only my judgment.  They are who they are.  But that’s life and while it took me 33 years to come to this conclusion it was well worth it (well…it would have been nice to learn like a decade ago).

My biggest fear coming to this conclusion was that they would disappear from my life.  That if I didn’t hold out hope of them changing, I wouldn’t know how to love them anymore and they would cease to exist in my world.  I just didn’t want to lose them.  The funny thing is now I am free to truly love them simply as them.  I don’t need to “save” them, I don’t need to have them be a “better” person, and no, this new outlook didn’t turn me into a cold cynical unfeeling bastard.  Instead, it honors both me and them.  It allows me to be more confident in who I am by recognizing the world as merely my own powerful interpretation.  And for them, I can now give them love without ever expecting anything in return!  And of course we should all expect nothing in return from love but I find it to be more difficult when it’s someone close to me like a friend or a family member.  We often give MORE love and hold out hope they will change. But alas, some people just don’t have it in them and anyway who am I to say they need to change.  Not this guy, that’s for sure.  

The Key:  Awareness and Acceptance

Become aware of the person you have spent endless time and energy on hoping for change.  Then spend some time with yourself and see why.  Begin to understand why you want this person to change.  You want their approval? Their Love? Maybe for proof that there is hope in the world?  Your lack of self-love? Fear of confronting the pain they inflicted on you? Fear you’ll be alone? Fear they won’t live without your love? Fear you will disappear? Whatever it is, take time and figure it out.  As I’ve said many times before, the biggest factor to change is becoming aware!  

Then Accept it.  Just simply accept it.  You don’t need to rationalize it. You don’t need to feel guilt or shame (two of my personal favorites). Now that you removed this veil of disillusion, accept them for who they are.  Because it is your veil that you’ve placed on them.  Now SEE THEM!!!  And accept.  

A lot of us accept people for who they are.  The difficulty lies in taking that final step and releasing the hope that they will change.  I’m not saying they won’t change.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t help them change…(by the way they must want change for it to happen).  What I’m saying is that you can’t take an energetic hit to the heart each time you hold out hope that “this time I know they will change” and they don’t.  That’s just masochistic. Release that self-abuse and love them from that state of being.  

I want to conclude with this, your relationship will be different after this new perspective.  You may find yourself not taking as much abuse as you were before.  You may find that you have more compassion for this person.  You may find that they slowly fall out of your life.  There are a multitude of outcomes.  Do not fear them.  And do not judge. You are honoring yourself and them.  You are evolving!  Let the myth go!

This is liberation!