I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You


"I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry’ and ‘I love you’ over and over again. Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world." 

  — Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len

Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice that combines love, forgiveness, repentance, and gratitude in four powerful phrases when said reflecting to yourself.  Yep, that’s it.  Four simple phrases that heal the soul. They are: 1. I love you. 2. I’m sorry. 3. Please forgive me. 4. Thank you. 

I first heard of this spiritual phenomenon when reading an article about how a therapist in Hawaii, Dr. Len, cured an entire ward of criminally and mentally insane patients with this simple mantra.  Dr. Len healed these patients without ever physically seeing them.  He did it by sitting with himself, looking inward and repeating the Ho’oponopono with true heartfelt love. 

"I just kept saying, ‘I’m sorry, ‘I love you,’ ‘please forgive me,’ and ‘thank you’ over and over again. Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world. Whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there’s only one place to look: inside you.  And when you look, do it with love. After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely.  Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications.  And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed."  


The What:   If you are like me, you like to relive the past and think about all the hurt either done to or by you.  Or maybe you like to worry about the future (that’s my personal favorite).  Or maybe you’re just plain angry, sad, depressed and unhappy.  Whatever it is, this is perfect. All you must do is look inward to the person who caused you strife (especially if it’s yourself) and say, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”

The How:  Take two deep breaths and close your eyes. Now envision either yourself or a person that created pain in your life. Really see them. Really feel the pain as if that image were real.  Now say: I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you.  Say each one with absolute conviction. True love, true apology, true forgiveness and true gratitude. It will take multiple times saying it. Say it like a mantra. When you think the person (in your imagination) is ready to accept the Ho’oponopono, imagine them embracing you with a wave of angelic light and love that eventually merges you both into one.  It makes me tear up even thinking about it now. It’s so beautiful when you put your heart into it.

The Why:  The Ho’oponopono is based on the theory that we are all truly one energy.  That is why this is one of the highest forms of self-love.  You are reclaiming your energy through love and forgiveness.  What a gift this is!  It is believed that when you connect in this realm, you are actually connecting with a piece of the universal soul.  This means that you are truly saying these phrases to your own soul and/or to the person you imagined.  Think of that when you are saying the Ho’oponopono.   

It may take time at first.  The first time I did it I was irritated about something and it took about 15 minutes before imaginary Bryce was really willing to hug me and merge. Now, it is much easier and imaginary Bryce wants to hug immediately!! I love that lil guy.  

This is an extremely important and useful tool and if you have any questions at all please feel free to email me at



Extra Reading:

Zero Limits by Dr. Joe Vitale and Dr. Len. Also featured in the popular film, The Secret.