The most profound thing we can do.

Cultivating the trust in oneself is one of the most profound things we can do. 

The trust to love oneself. The trust to believe in oneself. The trust to listen to oneself. The trust to support oneself. 

This is not an easy task. It can be brutal. Vulnerable. 

But, as I have seen in myself and in my clients, over, and over, and over again, if we don't trust in ourselves, we've got nothing. There is an irreconcilable crack in the foundation of trust that will permeate through life and through every relationship we ever have if not fixed. 

Trust oneself above ALL. 

Love,

Bryce

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Redefine it.

Redefine it. 

Simply redefine it. 

If a definition or a goal or a standard or a pathway or a habit or a thought or a reaction is not working for you, redefine it. 

Make it your own. Define it as you see fit. Definitions are nothing but a collection of words and theory that a group of people agreed upon. That's it. It's the basis for every system that has ever existed. Law, religion, schooling, morality, society, family, everything. 

And what we must be careful of is if these definitions still hold true, do they still mean the same things? Do they mean the same things for us? Should we challenge them? Did we sign an agreement at birth agreeing to all prescribed definitions out in the world? No. 

Why does a law degree take three years instead of two? Simple, economics. It's more money for the school. We didn't actually need that third year. But, it's an agreed upon definition. 

The more we start to break the definitions down to their origination, we will see the truth. And the truth is scary. More times than not the truth is scary. 

And if it ain't working for you, redefine it. Take it upon yourself to see what is standing in your way of getting what you want. Find the definition, gut it, change it, create a new one and fly. 

Too many definitions have been made by too many stupid people that were reinforced by even stupider people. 

The time is now to revolt and reclaim.

Time to define our own lives. 

Love,

Bryce

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When the rules need not apply

Fuck. The. Rules. (This is not said at a shouting level but rather a very soft and sincere level). 

If the rules aren't working for you. Fuck them. (Again, said with a smile while sipping coffee watching the sunrise). 

Fuck them to hell and back, upside down and sideways, hanging from the ceiling, backwards and forwards. (Done with the serenity and confidence of a person walking into a yoga studio setting up for their flow).

The rebellion against rules don't have to be loud. They don't have to prove anything. They don't have to shout. But, when it is decided that you will indeed be fucking them, do it with grace, poise, solidity, and force. Do it your way. 

Here's to a great day of meditatively fucking the rules to the ground in a burning glory of freedom. Breathe in, Breathe out. Namaste. 


Love,

Bryce

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5 important steps to suffering or thriving.

I  was writing a chapter on Beliefs for my book today and the more I  wrote the clearer I  got on a few things. 

1. We are born. We know nothing. Our parents and support systems have to show us everything. We are sponges. We adopt their beliefs and behaviors. 

2. We start having our own beliefs and behaviors. Unique to our core being. Distinct from our parents and support systems. 

3. We are then encouraged to define our core being through the belief systems and behaviors or we are not. This is an incredibly important moment for development but extremely difficult for those around us. What if, in our core, we believe and behave in the exact opposite of what we were brought up to be? 

4. We are encouraged or discouraged. And at this point WE have a choice to accept the encouragement or discouragement. We have to choose which belief systems and behaviors to follow. Let's also be clear, I'm not saying that anything is wrong with the way any of this. This is how humans evolve and learn. 

5. We suffer or we thrive. If we suffer we are still adopting old beliefs and behaviors that are contradictory to our core being. Simple as that. Not a lot of wiggle room there. If we thrive then we have successfully incorporated everything we have been taught, made it our own and ventured into the Self. Discovering more and more what makes us tick. What feeds us. Freedom. 

It is not easy to choose. It is hard. But it is worth it. Reach out if you would like help and work together and begin the shift from suffering to thriving. 


Love,

Bryce

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The fight I couldn't afford to lose

A while back a very good friend of mine scalped himself. Literally. He caught his head on a piece of metal and cut deeply into his scalp to the point where you could lift the skin flap up. Needless to say this was not a good situation.

We Ubered over to the nearest clinic to get this remedied asap. When we pulled up to the clinic, I  flung open the door to help my buddy who was in shock. The door bumped another car door beside us. I  barely noticed. It looked like a clunker. We were on mission mode and this was no time to stop.

As we crossed the street, rushing to get him inside, we hear a man yelling behind us. We turn around and there is a guy screaming at us to get back and speak to him. Supposedly, we did him wrong. I had no clue what he was talking about. We kept going ignoring him. 

We got situated inside and I see this guy coming at us through the window of the clinic. Now I'm getting pissed. I have a scalped friend bleeding beside me and some NY crazy storming at us. Instead of having him come into the clinic and creating chaos, I decided I would have to meet him outside so my buddy was safe and could be taken care of. 

When I got out, there in front of me was a gigantic man. I'm 6'1 but this man had to be 6'6 and about a solid 350lbs. My only goal was to keep this guy out of the clinic. Then he laid into me. "You fucked my car up. What the fuck. That's my fucking car. You fucking disrespect my shit. You're fucking bullshit . Disrespecting my shit." 

I was pretty sure I was going to have to fight this guy or at least attempt to fight him before his fist imploded my face. But when I heard him say "disrespect, " something pinged me. Amongst the blinding rage and fear, I caught that one word. It hit me, this guy feels like he was disrespected by two punk asses that were trying to run off. 

And out of my mouth came two solitary words... "I'm sorry."

And I said it again, "I'm sorry. I truly am."

Then I repeated his word, "I meant no disrespect. My friend had a major head injury and to tell you the truth I'm scared. This is the first time I've seen this and have no idea what to do but get him in that clinic. I'm sorry."

The guy pauses. Stares at me. I stare at him. And he says, "thank you."

I was dumbfounded. Absolutely dumbfounded. He then went on to say he knows shit like this can be tough and we gotta watch out for family. And said thank you again. Took BOTH my hands in his and held them and shook them praying for my friend. 

Then he smiled, turned around and left.

I stood there in complete disbelief. 

He simply wanted an acknowledgement. An apology. To be seen. To be heard. Probably a man that has been disrespected a lot in his life. Probably tired of people treating him and his property as second class. 

See, that's the funny thing about us humans, we all feel. We all want to be understood. We don't want to be disrespected. We want to be heard. And by truly hearing what the other person is saying, underneath the yelling, underneath the hurt, we are all people wanting that acknowledgement. And in this case it was,

I'm sorry. 

Love,

Bryce

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