“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
I did not like soccer. I do not like soccer. I was bad at it. Ohhhh how I suffered. Ha.
Cue post about suffering and the sick pleasure of it.
Suffering is insufferable. So here’s my question, what if we stopped? What would happen? Would we be living in a dream world? Would people think us crazy? Would we be disappointed? Would we deserve it? Would it be egotistical?
I mean on one hand it sounds crazy, who would wantonly suffer? But on the other hand, most people do. I did/do. It was one of my favorite things to do. Sheer torture was the name of the game. I loved the drama. Toxic situations, people, ideas, habits, lifestyle. Ohhh, how I loved a hot cup of suffering in the morning.
Suffering feels like a friend. But one of those friends that just suck.
While it sounds preposterous, suffering is a friend. It’s always there for you. Suffering is a constant variable in life. It is one thing that we have control over. We are used to that anxious feeling in the heart/head/back/gut. We know how to place ourselves in situations that will hurt so good.We know. Come on, we know.
So what do we do? Is there a way to get free? Yes there is. It is to jump. You jump! You jump into your ability to choose! You close your eyes, let out a warrior scream and you jump as if your damn life depended on it. Because it does. You choose, in that moment, to suffer or not!
I repeat the question above, what would happen if we stopped suffering? We would live! We would have freedom. We would be freaking happy. We would laugh. Life would become a hell of a lot more fun! Look, life will still hurt. You will still get knocked around but my God, it doesn’t mean you have to be a slave to suffering. You owe no penance to anyone.
When you start feeling the suffering spread its invisible toxic hand, think to yourself, “Do I really need to suffer, in this moment? Must I punish myself? What would happen if I just...let go? Could I live a life where I feel empowered by my choices...good and bad?”
There is no need to suffer. It’s absolutely ridiculous. You are love for crying out loud. Live it. Even when you feel you can’t. Own your damn life! To hell with the suffering!